Single Moms Responsible for Crime!

So who wants to discuss, cuz this graphic pissed me off....

I know that it's Father's Day and everything but I just read the stupidest shit ever! I was looking up SINGLE MOM GRAPHICS and came across this one that had the title of "Do You See This Piece of Shit" Pointing to the mom holding up her baby .... like seriously? So I have to read...

.... what the heck is making this mom a "piece of shit"?

It says..... (no need to struggle to read it, I typed it all up)

That's a single mom.

She looks harmless, doesn't she?

Yet single moms are a crime production facility.

Countless studies have shown that single motherhood ruins children's lives. Single mothers cause disproportionately high crime rates, mental health issues, drug abuse and education problems.

Single fathers do not have such a negative impact. It's the mother's that become destructive when not supervised by men.

43% of prison inmates grew up in a single-parent household (39% with their mothers, 4% with their fathers, single mothers result in a disproportionately high number of criminals, single fathers do not); (US Bureau of Justice Statistics: 60% of rapists and 72% of adolescent murderers grew up without fathers (Behavioral Sciences and the Law, Life Without Father, Policy Review); 80% of pre-school children admitted as psychiatric patients came from fatherless homes (Psychiatric Hospitalization of Pre-School Children, J of the Am Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry), Abusive violence against children appears to be a function of poverty in mother-only homes but unrelated to income among single fathers (Child abuse and violence in single-parent families, Am j Orthopsychiatry); 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. of Health/Census); 90% of adolescent repeat arsonists live wiith only their mother (Dousing the Kindlers, Psychology Today); 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes (CDC); 75% of adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes (Rainbows for all God's Children); 71% of all highschool dropouts come from fatherless homes (National Principals Assoc Report); 85% of youths in prisons grew up in a fatherless home (Texas Dep of Corrections).

Growing up in a female-headed household remained a statistical predictor of behavior problems even after adjusting for differences in family income (Economic Deprivations and Early Childhood Development, Child Development); The relationship between family structure and crime is so strong that controlling for family configuration erases the relationship between race and crime and between low income and crime (Putting Children First, Progressive Policy Institute).

40% of mothers reported that they had interfered with the non-custodial father's visitation on at least one occasion, to punish the ex-spouse (Frequency of visitation by Divorced Fathers; Differences in Reports by Fathers and Mothers, Am. J of Orthopsychiatry); Children living with their dads felt positively about moms, while children living with moms were more likely to think negatively of dads (Advantages of Father Custody and Contact for the Psychological Well-Being of School-Age Children, J of Applied Developmental Psychology); Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is a purposeful, intentional attempt by one parent (typically the mother) to ruin the child's feelings for the other parent. Techniques used include false stories, deceptions, rumors and negative explanations of events. Children brainwashed by single mothers may develop hate towards their father or men in general, and may suffer from Stockholm Syndrome (SS), a psychological phenomenon in which victims have positive feelings towards their abusers, for example fatherless children who defend or glorify their abusive mother.

This graphic really pissed me off....

First off "43% of prison inmates grew up in a single-parent household" ..... so that means that 57% didn't.... 

Do you know math, because I'm pretty sure that 57% is bigger than 43% ....

State-by-state analysis by Heritage scholars indicates that a 10 percent increase in the percentage of children living in single-parent homes leads typically to a 17percent increase in juvenile crime. The rate of violent teenage crime corresponds with the number of families abandoned by fathers.

via google

Let's talk about how many of those households are SINGLE MOTHERS not by their choice!  My husband left, I was not involved in that decision, he made it on his own.  

What about the mother's who's baby daddies are convicts and they didn't know that guy was trouble to begin with?  Or even just blind to it .... 

What about the mother's who's significant other's DIE? 

Let's say - for example - all the widowed mother's of 9-11.  Are you going to go up to them and say this shit to their faces?  Blame them for wrecking their child's life.  

Just because your Mommy spanked you when you were little doesn't mean all single mothers are "bad" .... 

............. are there bad single mothers?   HELL YEAH!  There are also bad single fathers!! There are also horrible two parent households......... 

way to bend the fucking statistics to meet your CRAP logic! 

In actuality - the RISE of crime rate actually parallels the amount of households where the father's abandoned their children.  

What about neighborhoods with gang violence?  That increases things A LOT!  

There are so many factors to these types of issues - but the bottom line is more the fathers abandoning their children than abusive mothers..... 

Do your own research.  But ya know, pig headed men will always be pig headed men.... always blaming the woman and trying to make themselves superior! 

Fuck that shit.  Obviously an abusive asshat of a man wrote this shit - who thinks women should be kept locked in the house completely under his control..... 

"It's the mother's that become destructive when not supervised by men" ........ yeah..... I wanna see them have a baby.... a lot of men can't even handle cold!!

And I'm not saying there aren't good men out there... or that all dad's abandon their kids... there are good men, there are good fathers, and there are families that stay together and split up that do the best they can.  

Parenting....

Today feels like......

(this went up on FB today .... because Cal was being compared to someone manipulative, mentally and emotionally abusive.)

In our lives we choose to be supportive and loving.

Calahan watched me come out of an abusive situation and in the end standing up for myself and standing strong against it. I was no longer going to be manipulated and broken down by words. I taught my kids to stand up for what and who they believe in and because they have brothers who have medical needs and "typical" kids don't always treat them like kids who are just like them. You feel like someone is bullied, you stand up for that person. I mean even Cal got bullied as a child, badly, at his schools and it's good to see him when he stands up for what he believes in or someone who he feels is being mistreated. He is very protective of those he loves. I also raised him to be a good man. He is very kind hearted and loving, and he's still young and still learning and we might get annoyed with his lack of focus sometimes, lol, he's forgetful on those chores.... but he tries hard, and he usually means well. I've taught him to be respectful and sometimes respectful flies out the window, just like with anyone.

Cal has had a few girlfriends. There are the early girls who lasted a few months ... the stolen kisses in the alleys. We move to WA and he has a girlfriend for a short time and then he met his high school sweetheart. They dated for 5 years and, he had asked her to marry him at her graduation, he had even gotten her dad's permission to ask her. It was sweet. We worried though, because she had a very over protective family and they didn't get to see each other often. And slowly things began to change and things ended. Then there was ..... she who shant be named .... and her verbally and mental abuse of Cal, even some physical abuse... but it's like... I saw it and I got so mad, she was cheating on him and I had proof and he still believed her.... and I got so frustrated until I stepped back and looked at him and realized, I could get mad all I wanted and it wasn't going to change a thing. So I stepped back and looked at the situation ... and realized the only thing I was doing .... was losing my son and allowing her to win. So I started to remember he's an adult and he has the right to make his own decisions and his own mistakes. So I focused on supporting him. We'd talk about the various issues, but I tried not to get mad or let my anger about it show. I expressed my concerns and had to allow him to make his own choices.

What my son is NOT .... is abusive. What he is NOT is controlling. NOR is he comparable to someone who is.