SOMEONE/SOMETHING YOU LOVE ....
It is something .... to be able to love one-self.... right?
Of course there are things about myself I'm not happy with ..... like my weight, I would love to not be overweight, even though I'm not *THAT* overweight, I have been a "big girl" all my life it seems. I remember my uncles teasing me when I was little .....
"fatty fatty two by four, can't fit through the kitchen door" and stuff like that. By no means was I a fat child.....
I don't even think I was a "fat" teen ...
But I have
FELT fat for as long as I can remember.... at one point, I did start to gain weight, and now that I have confided in my mom the fact I was sexually assaulted as a child - my mom thinks that I had started to gain weight and become more "pudgy" around that same time. She said (when I finally confided in her) that it
"all makes sense now" .... I never knew why we made the move we did, and it was right in the middle of my being molested, but my mom had told me - when I confided in her - that she knew (mother's instinct) that something was going on and that she had to "get me out of there" ... being my grandparent's house. Little did she know that the danger was actually IN the house at the time, and that even though we moved, I was still subjected to it.... no, it wasn't my grandfather, or any of my Mom's brothers... no direct blood relation to me. Besides my Mom, no one in my family knows, and it'll probably forever be kept that way. And that's A-O-K with me...
So I have, since I was very young, been very self conscious .... and once you are self-conscious and you see yourself as "fat" (even when you aren't) .... it's hard to dig yourself out of that hole, especially when you are an immature kid who is very shy and internalizes everything ....
Now, with the help of my husband (he probably doesn't even know how much he's helped me in that department) ... but he is the only man who has ever called me "beautiful" and I believed him. Like, it's nice to hear "you're pretty" or whatever, but I'd blow it off ... my husband, though, after hearing it so long, being aware when he's said it while he thought I was sleeping (which I was, but I was aware enough to hear him and remember it) ... that I actually realized he meant it.
But I do have self worth now, and I do love myself. I am have accepted the fact that I am not the "perfect" weight and likely will never be the "perfect" weight .... but I am okay with being fat or skinny or whatever ... I am a very kind person, I am loyal, I have two modes - either I'm super chatty or super shy, both of them are because I'm nervous ... I am a really good photographer, and I'm a really good writer .... and I learn something every day and I really enjoy learning ... and I find it very amusing that I am called my husband's daughter instead of people thinking I'm his wife, and as much as I find it amusing ... he finds ZERO humor in it ... LOL .....
So ........ growing up, I found the love of reading. I always has books by me, with me, in my hands, whatever.... I took pride in and loved my books.
To this day, I still do ....
So losing my books, it's kinda traumatic .... I had several collections of a few authors where I had the full collection, I had some signed books, and some books I'll never be able to replace - like the one my grandmother gave me, and the really rare copy I had ....
So I get really giddy and excited to be - at least - restoring the most important collection to me, and that is that of my favorite author... Nora Roberts .... and her books under the pen name of J.D. Robb also .... I have been reading her books for over 20 years now.... I was 16, I think, when I started to read her books and grow out of the teen novels I read (Christopher Pike, Lurlene McDaniels...) I was reading V.C. Andrews since I was 13 or 14 .... and about 16 when I read my first Nora Roberts (Charmed) and then I've been devouring everything she's written in her career since then ... Except for the novellas - which I didn't have ALL of - I had all her books but ONE (including some of the rarer Language of Love covers) .... to date, right now.... she has 244 stories (that I know of) ... and those are both her Nora Roberts books, her J.D. Robb books, and the novellas written under both names..... so out of 244 books I currently have 163. So I'm over half way there of restoring that collections, and I will restore it - and as quick as possible.... cuz not having this collection makes me extremely stabby. (I'll talk about other collections later - after you scroll past the pictures...)
So Nora has a few different types of collections.... she has stand alone books, she has series of two or more books ... most are trilogies... the entire J.D. Robb books is one HUGE
HUGGEEEE series. It's 47 books long, that's pretty fucking big.... if you count the novellas it's 57 stories long .... when I count the novellas - which are shorter stories in a combined book of other authors (usually two other authors) ... I say "stories" instead of "books" ..... so .... out of 73 of the stand along books, I have 49 .... out of 103 of the series books, I have 89 of them.... you get the picture.
73=49 (non-series books)
11=8 (novella mini-stories)
103=89 (series books)
29 = 20 (completed series)
47=17 (J.D.Robb books)
10=0 (J.D. Novellas)
Totals: 223=155 (books)
21=8 (novellas)
244=163 (stories all together)
This is my "to read" shelf of the more recent things.... there are some J.D. Robb books I need to get in order to read those because I'm missing couple with in those .... I have been reading the SAME BOOK for over a year, this has never happened in my life, but I haven't had or been making a lot of time to read, and I need to ... but I'm still reading book one (
Stars of Fortune) of the Guardians Trilogy ... the two other books to the series are the
Bay of Sighs there and the
Island of Glass.
The One is the first book to her newest series,
Come Sundown and
Shelter in Place ...
Stand Alone Shelf .....
Stand Alone Shelf .....
Stand Alone Shelf .....
Series ....
Series ....
Series ....
Series ....
J.D. Robb books that I have read (I don't have a lot of these yet) ...
These are the Stand Alone - Re-Issues ... a lot of her early work are released as - usually - two books in a combined themed title .... which makes all of us fans go "oooooooooohhhh" but then we realize they aren't new. Nora has no control over these books, they are under another publisher then the one she has now, and that publisher re-issues the older books and re-issues them again and again.... which is great for me, cuz I'm rebuilding my collection ... LOL .... (and I see one book missing from the pic below, yeah - wth is that book?) ....
So ..... I lost the VC Andrews collection I has, and I had all the original covers, but I'm not real sad about losing those because once the ghost writer(s) ran out of her plots, the writing changed drastically .... wasn't as disturbing....
bawahhahahahahahaha
I lost my Twilight books - easy to replace
and I will .....
I lost my Harry Potter books - easy to replace,
AND I WILL dammit .... BUT ... I had a few fan things that I probably won't be able to replace... (sad panda) ...
I had a Debbie Macomber collection too .... which she is a local author - woohoooo ... easy enough to replace, also .... I'm not sure I will though ....
Oh I also had the Hunger Games books .... Anne of Green Gables series (that my Grandmother gave me) ....
a few other things... but yeah .....
WHAT ARE YOU OFFERING THE WORLD ....
What do I have to offer the world.......... not much. I'm just one un-important person, a mother who has two children that have really rare genetic disorders ... so I advocate and I tell their story....because their stories are IMPORTANT ... I am their voice, their cheerleader, their support ...
Honestly, I was watching
Gordon Ramsay's 24 Hours to Hell and Back tonight - and in the newest episode ... at the end, Gordon is taking photos with some of the customer of the restaurant - and there is a guy with Downs, at least I think it's Downs ... and it made me cry to see him so happy to be getting this picture of him and Gordon and the other man he was with (a friend, family, I'm not sure) ... but Gordon gets the photo and hands it to the guy with Downs, and he was so excited and he threw his arms around Gordon un-apologetically - just with such enthusiasm and excitement.... he threw his arms around him and said "I love you" ... and I teared up.... stuff like that makes everything inside me so happy .... because, it might not be the same Trisomy, I am a Trisomy parent also and that just.... makes me so happy ....
Beyond my love for my kids, and my words - in whatever format ....
:::shrugs::: I am just an unimportant person ...