You can check out a bunch of my past ICLW introductions HERE .... each one might have a little different information.... but over all .... this is my journey to have children.....
Our History....
I may not understand everything - but I've been through a lot to get the great kids I have :) I understand a lot.... especially that of loss.
I hope you'll dig a little deeper in my blog, find some humor and a couple of heart touching stories. Please check out the miracles I have ... read Noah & Nathan's stories (tabs above) ...
Please leave comments if you've been here so I can check out your blog :)
**someone asked me in my comments if we were sure Rowan was a miscarriage, and that I wasn't just late. I wanted to add my reply on here .... in case someone else was wondering....
Yes, I'm sure it was a miscarriage - it was my 14th one.... and being late didn't bother me. I'm late all the time because I take my active birth control pills in secession so I don't have a period at all. I had pregnancy symptoms and funny enough, my husband even noticed. And when I had the miscarriage, I took a pregnancy test - sure nuff it was positive. So yeah, we're for sure that was a miscarriage. I have had some questionable ones since, but I haven't counted them - I have had a lot more questionable ones....
In addition to that - I'll never forget the day - because it was 4th of July. I lost Hannah the day after my birthday .... and Caelan was on my husband's and my 1st Anniversary ..... happy anniversary huh? ..... I only name pregnancies that I was absolutely for sure about. I've probably had a lot more miscarriages than the 14 ... plus, during my later ones - it's very obvious when you miscarry ...
If you don't think I went through enough TRYING to get and stay pregnant ..... well, getting pregnant was never really the problem... it was staying pregnant .... anyway, as if that weren't enough ... my kids insist on keeping me on my toes!!
Some of the medical issues our family deals with ....
Calahan - ADHD/mild ODD .... Dysgraphia (learning disability) ... and when he was 2 1/2 we went through a Leukemia scare with him - bone marrow tests and all - luckily he didn't have Leukemia ... but from this we know he has some sort of bleeding disorder that they haven't been able to figure out.
Noah - 1lb 12oz at birth - Mosaic Trisomy 16 - extremely rare genetic disorder. We were told he would die before he was born, right after he was born or shortly after ... he just turned 10 years old! He had kidney failure in 2007 thanks to a bacteria running amok in his belly ... and luckily his kidney's healed but they get tired when he gets sick and we have to really watch him. He has significant hearing loss in his left ear and wears a hearing aid. He has Dyslexia .... sensory issues, and various other stuff. During pregnancy he had a poorly functioning placenta ... IUGR ... low fluid a lot of the time... he was also born with a hyposadious and a natural circumcision ...
Nathan - 3lbs 4oz at birth - my little boy who loves the color pink .. lol.. originally he was diagnosed with Dandy Walker while he was in-utero ... however, we have since learned that he has Russell Silver Syndrome (a type of primordial dwarfism) ... he is 5 years old now, and 26 lbs. He's a little shorter than his 3 yr old brother. Technically he does have Dandy Walker Variant ...the vermus is missing in his cerebellum .... He also has something called polymicrogyria, his doctors say instead of the major fold between the two hemispheres of his brain, the front of Nathan's brain looks like a bunch of grapes - it has a lot of folds. In addition to that, he has hypothyroidism, a high soft submucus closed cleft palate (meaning there is a mucus membrane on the roof of his mouth but no muscle behind it), Asthma ... he has Autism, major speech delay and various other things going on. He had a 2 vessel cord and IUGR during pregnancy ... he was also born with a hyposadious and Aortic Septal Defect
Kaedyn - aka Bubba ... he was a fat healthy baby :) He has eczema and allergies .... he has asthma and chronic croup when he gets sick.... and that's all :) Well he does have speech issues also because he picked up "Nathanese" ... Nathan and Kaedyn have a twin like relationship. They were 16 months apart but Nathan was newborn-ish size when Kaedyn was born. Kaedyn has started to take on the "protector" role over Nathan and only he can beat him up....
And that's just the cliff notes.....
Our Family - Easter Weekend
I look forward to reading your blog! But I have to question a pregnancy in 2010 if your husband had the procedure done? Are you sure you weren't just late? I know that being on the pill sometimes does that to me.
ReplyDeleteI hope you don't take any offense to my question. I was searching for blogs dealing with infertility, as I have a condition that is making it hard for me to get preg. again. Thanks!
-J.
Yes, I'm sure it was a miscarriage - it was my 14th one.... and being late didn't bother me. I'm late all the time because I take my active birth control pills in secession so I don't have a period at all. I had pregnancy symptoms and funny enough, my husband even noticed. And when I had the miscarriage, I took a pregnancy test - sure nuff it was positive. So yeah, we're for sure that was a miscarriage. I have had some questionable ones since, but I haven't counted them - I have had a lot more questionable ones....
ReplyDeleteI have a question... when you named all of the babies, did you know for sure if they were a boy or a girl, or did you just guess? A lot of the names could be unisex, but ones like Hannah obviously aren't. I've always wondered what happens when a woman loses a baby too early to delivery the baby and find out what it was. My stepsister just lost two babies (within 4 months). My mom lost a baby, but she was stillborn and full term. I doubt I will ever have any children due to my health problems.. but if I ever did try and lost a baby, I'd LOVE to name the baby... but I don't like many unisex names. That's why I'm curious.. you certainly don't have to answer/explain... I've just always wondered. :)
ReplyDeleteHello and thank you so much for stopping by my blog! Wow, you have got your hands full. What strength you must have. Wishing you the best of luck.
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I am also a rpl patient. I'm glad to see your happy family and am sorry it was such a tough road.
ReplyDeleteStopping by from ICLW I'm sorry for all ur losses but I'm greatful u have a happy family!!! Ur one strong woman!!!!!
ReplyDeleteA big hello from Sydney. My heart goes out to you for your many losses, but your family is beautiful - you're a goddess for being surrounded by all that testosterone!! :) xx
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by my blog! I, too, am a RPL survivor, and I'm so glad to see your beautiful family! You have your hands full ... you are clearly an amazing woman!! Happy ICLW!
ReplyDeleteFound you from ICLW :) What a beautiful family you have. I can't imagine going through as much loss as you have...my one has been hard enough. You seem to be a very strong and determined woman--I guess four boys will do that to you :)
ReplyDeletethank-you so much for stopping by my blog, you have a beautiful family, it sounds like you went through quite a bit to have your children. i'm so glad you were able to have them, i know how hard it can be when you are trying without success.
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