Meeting the Sissy! It's All about Clairah today!

So LAST Tuesday (the 5th) Clairah was supposed to meet her Sissy in the hospital.  We had activities, snacks, toys ... she had a "Big Sister" Gift ...  we were looking forward to her seeing Elly right away...

Only - call came in, she's sick.  Can't come.  No visitation.  @@ ....   The fact that Shila was in the hospital, well, better safe than sorry - but still... sucks.

But today - today Clairah FINALLY gets to meet her Elly.

FB Status: Baby kept Shi up all night. Wish I could give her a break today so she could sleep, but Clairah is going to be here soon.

This is Shila holding Elly waiting for Clairah.  She is playing with Thor at her feet.

Clairah got her and of course her other Grandparents wanted to see Elly.   Clairah got out and was put on the ground - first thing she did was come give me hugs and kisses.  I love  my Claire-bear.  She went to pick some flowers.  Gave one to Nonna, took it back, gave it to Mommy .. LOL...

Thor was just being funny so I took this sequence of pictures .....

So there was a minute where we were outside - and Clairah comes up to me and says "Daddy?"  And I ignored her for a moment.  Then she said it again ... "Nonna, Daddy?"  ....  so I said, quietly as I could, but loud enough for Clairah...  "Daddy is inside sleeping."

I stepped away to occupy Clairah ... and I heard one of the Grandma's go...  "She calls Kale "Daddy" Shila?" and Shila confirmed, said it's just what she calls him.  No one has told her to, that's just what she does.  I hear them reply with .... "Well we don't let her call ANYONE else Mommy!  That's just you!  It's not right for her to call someone else Daddy."

Which I can see the point.  However....  the following convo also happened....

Clairah calls (called) one of the Grandma's "Mommy" and Shila got upset, said "Why is she calling you Mommy?"  Grandma, "Oh well it's just easier for her." ....

So.......  Point.  Invalid.

Just sayin.

In our house, we don't tell children what to call the adults - the rule we live by for step-parents is:  The child can call that adult whatever is comfortable for them.  If they want to call that person Mommy or Daddy - they can.  If they want to call them by a nickname "Papa" or whatever ...   That's fine.  If they want to call them by their first names, fine too.   Not going to put our kids in the middle of crap they shouldn't be involved in .....  

Playing games with children is not cool.  Making them feel like they shouldn't or can't be affectionate to other adults who are a huge part of their lives, it's wrong.  Period.  People who keep kids away from other parents because they are jealous they moved on, pissed off that they are happy, whatever the reason that PARENTS comes up with actually causes HARM to that child.  Period.

Random FB Status from today:  someone has to clean the house ..... it's time to draw straws ...

Onto happier things......

Shila is handing Clairah little Elly ... and Clairah says Elly too ... it's adorable.   

Clairah and Elly - Sisters - FOREVER ....

We stayed outside for a bit to let Clairah run off some energy.

DB and Kaedyn had a tickle fight.... heehee....  I love catching these moments.

We let Clariah open up all the little gifts she was given - for becoming a Big Sister.  The piggy came from Grandma Cherie (I think) 

This gift was from Nonna, Poppy, Mommy & Daddy and Nana and Papa ...  she got a couple of play baby doll bottles, a BIG sucker, some Doc McStuffins coloring and activity things, a bag she can draw on ...crayons, books - just stuff for her to do at the hospital.  So now she gets to do it here.

Mommy & Daddy Kale got her Lambie!  They thought she was going to be bigger when they ordered it.  Came and it was just this little tiny thing.  But Clairah still loves it a ton.

This is actually Jessa's "Big Sister" ribbon.   But I thought it would look cute on Clairah.

There are some food container things for toddlers in here that Mommy got her (I think) ... and some other things she was given.

Clairah decided she wanted to hold Elly again and she decided to lay down .. LOL....

Clairah loves Elly a lot, she's very concerned and watchful of her little sister, but she's also pretty unsure of what to do.  Which is absolutely normal.   I just wanted to make sure Clairah got a lot of time with Mommy and Nonna so she knows things aren't different.  

This one below, it's my favorite picture of the two of them from today.  

Here it was later in the day and she was getting a little bit more aggressive.  She poked her nose a lot.  HA HA ....  But she got a little rough and ended up on a time out.

I was outside with Kinsleigh and had to take some pictures :)

Clairah went home and Kale, Shila and Elly all pretty much crashed.  

This is how I spent my night, Elly cuddles, watching Trash TV and editing pictures.....

I can't even express how much I love these little girls.  I'm so blessed that Kale decided to make me his 2nd Momma and that him and Shila allow us to be such a big part of these little girls lives,  I love being a Grandma - or a Nonna anyway....