The Public Entry .... and some funnies ...

I wrote a REALLY REALLY long blog today about me.  About my past.  About being molested and how I connect to the whole sexual abuse world as a victim, as a spouse, as a parent.  It's HARD to open up that door to the public.

I was really therapeutic to write it all out - to write out the actual DETAILS ...

But, I couldn't publish it.  There are a lot of reasons I couldn't publish it right now, I do intend to publish it at some point.  I copied it over to word, and I shared it with a few people I am close to that I knew would read it.  Who would want to read it.   When I copied it over, it was 22 pages long.  WOW....  but to be fair, there were graphics in it too.

I feel that with the whole Duggar scandal going on - it doesn't just raise anger and being brokenhearted for the victims, People are quick to hate Josh - which I am not saying is wrong.  I feel that the death penalty should be opened up for child abusers .... however, only ones that it can be 100% proven for - because people do get blamed that never did it.

People in custody battles, ex's falsely accuse the other just to get a leg up - which is COMPLETELY wrong, and people don't understand how you can ruin a life with a false accusation.  They don't care.  It's a selfish act, and it can completely wreck someone's life who never did anything.

With that said, Josh Duggar's scandal - because let's face it - it's not the "Duggar Family Scandal" ... let's attach this to the appropriate person.  This is on Josh Duggar, perhaps on Jim Bob & Michelle for the way it was handled, but NO ONE ELSE in that family should this be attached to.  Infact, some of the VICTIMS of this are in that family.  But to attach the crime to the whole family is wrong.

The other thing is this ...... this whole thing has not only brought up anger and loathing in people due to the crime - but it has also brought out the memories in so many victims not even attached to this particular story.  It's made a lot of victims of being molested, sexual abuse in whatever form - remember their story - and how it made them feel.  I will share this from my blog I wrote earlier ...


The news of the Duggars has - I am sure, aroused a lot of emotion of people (men and women) who have been molested, assaulted, raped - whatever their story might be - to deal with the unwelcome memories of what happened to them.

I do not condone what Josh Duggar did in any way.  Is there a chance he learned - and no longer heeds to these temptations ....  he might be a devoted husband, a true turn around, an amazing father....  and I would hope that Anna is hyper-aware of what he does with his own children based on the reports saying she knew about this prior to getting married.  But even if he's a great husband, and an amazing dad, it doesn't change the severity of his crime.

I see a lot of sides of this.  I see the sides of the victim. I can see the side of the spouse.  Of the parent. And it makes me sick.  Literally.

There are a lot of blogs and articles out there about the scandal.   Some of the ones I have saved, read ....

There are a variety of links, and some different views..... I am just sharing links that I have read.

I knew as soon as I read this first one, I would be writing this blog.... in time.....

Why We Must Call Out Child Molesters (Duggars, We're Looking At You)

What You Need to Know about the Josh Duggar Police Report

The Duggars Aren’t Hypocrites. Progressives Are.

A Christian ‘Defense’ Of Josh Duggar

Since this story has been made mention of, I thought I would look into this....
Lena Dunham Describes Sexually Abusing Her Little Sister

The Web Has Known About Josh Duggar for Years. When Did TLC Find Out?

Dear Duggars …. Sincerely, Me

Duggar Girls Victimized … And It Wasn’t Over 10 Years Ago Like You’ve Heard!

This last one ^^^ It hit home.  Before you go thinking the last one continues in the explosive claims, it's just an expression of how all of this - all of the media and attention - is only victimizing the girls again ....

It's true.  Because I feel victimized again.  Just like I do when I read any story of sexual abuse.

Before I get into my story....  I want to say something about the Duggars.  I was not a fan - at first.  I was one of those people who watched periodically with fascination.   I didn't watch because I believe their beliefs, I didn't watch because I want to be like them....   I can appreciate their family dynamic.  I am intrigued with how their family runs.  I enjoy watching how the kids have grown and are now having families of their own.  I started watching more religiously when Josie came along.  Being a NICU Mom, a Micro-Preemie Mom, I understand that world.  I was cheering Josie on ... sharing stories and news of her - excited when she triumphed.   Beat her odds!   I like Odd Beaters A LOT.  I know a few of them.

So I have to say when this story broke, I was shocked.  Sickened.  I *HOPED* it wasn't true, and when he admitted to it, put out a statement - there was no denying the events.   To realize that two of his victims are probably his two newlywed, first time parent/expectant sisters ....  MAKES ME SICK.

And a little selfishly - makes me mad - because I was invested in their stories and their lives.

There was no getting around the show getting canceled.  TLC immediately cancels on the grounds of these type of accusations, as was proven with Here Comes Honey Boo-Boo....

However, I do not understand how TLC could not know this.  This happened right around the same time the show started.  Did they truly not know?  Or did they know, have some suspicion, and just went with it because it wasn't true public knowledge and only rumors circulating around the message boards?

I ended up doing something today that has really tilted me.  But that's for tomorrow's blog.   Today I am going to end my PUBLIC blog (not the one that is currently private) with some funnies I have come across lately ....